Swinger Rules for clubs and personal contact.  These rules are only there for you, your partner, and other guests to follow for a guaranteed great time and satisfaction.  Even when you meet someone from the internet at a location such as in a car for sex, these rules still apply.  If you are at a swinger's club, they probably have their own rules.  Some will be different from others but the first rules usually are the same. Here are some general rules for those who want to consider this adult lifestyle.

#1  The Golden Rule of all: "NO means absolutely NO"  

If a woman or a man tells you no, it means absolutely no.  Just because a person might be having intercourse that does not mean you have the right to join in or have oral sex or anal.  

Just like any sexual relationship NO means absolutely NO!

If you are having oral sex and a person tells you not to cum in their mouth, it means don't!!  During any swinging  encounters  when anyone says "NO", regardless of any reason, no means to "STOP" the activity you are trying to do at once.  Don’t try to continue what you were trying to do.  No explanation is needed as it would be understood.

Believe it or not,  swingers actually have a high moral code.  They want everyone to walk away happy and satisfied.  If the person is trying this for the first time and they change their mind then it is over.  Your happiness and satisfaction with this lifestyle or not, is what counts.   Swingers understand that no is no, and not a maybe.  

#2  Be  Polite:

Be polite.   Just because he or she does not meet what you desire, it does not give you any right to be rude.  If you are not interested just say  "No thank you, but I appreciate that you asked".  By doing so you are being honest to yourself and the person asking, plus you will also avoid any misunderstandings.  

Treat others with respect you would want from others.  

If you want others to treat you with respect, then treat others just the way you want to be treated. Club parties are for everyone's sexual enjoyment.  Being rude and judgmental is the opposite of being a true swinger.   Also approaching a woman with politeness is a great way to open the door for sex.

#3 BE HONEST

Men, don’t tell a woman you are big and hung if you are not.  If you are on the smaller side be honest. You will be surprised how many women will enjoy your size for oral and anal.   As for the sized guys, don’t brag about it.  That could work against you.   Remember, size is not everything to a lot of the women who enjoy this lifestyle.  

Women,  be honest with a guy too!   Don’t pad your bra to make your boobs look like something they are not.  When the clothes come off he is going to see the real you anyway. So just be yourself and enjoy the encounter. 

#4 TELL THE PERSON WHAT YOU WOULD LIKE SEXUALLY.

Talk to the person who wants to have swinging sex with you.  Don't be afraid to tell them what  you want.    If you want to give a man oral, tell him.  If you want to have intercourse, tell him or her.   Your honesty will lead to a much more "hotter" encounter.    

#5. BE HONEST ABOUT YOUR AGE.    If someone asks be honest.   NEVER have sex with anyone you think is barely legal.  He or she might not be.  Most swingers or swinger clubs will not let anyone in under 25.  Why? They  just want to make sure everyone is the legal age.   If you are not sure, then don’t have sex with that person or ask to see his or her ID.  You don’t want to take a chance of someone being underage.

#6 Never assume anything, always ask!

Don’t assume anything.  Ask!!  Don't hesitate to ask if the person is STD safe even if he or she is going to use a condom.  If you don’t believe the person is honest with you then don’t have sex with him or her.

By making an assumption,  you could find yourself being left out of the fun.  Don’t assume that a person at a swing club is there for sex.  He might be there to watch his wife playing or she might be there to only watch her partner enjoying someone else or to try a number of things.   Don’t try to be the sexiest or the hottest at a club.  Just be yourself and others will be more interested in enjoying some time with you.

#7  Excessive Drinking

Don't be a fool and  think drinking will make you a better lover.  It won’t.  For men drinking is a sure way to to keep your manhood down.  Maybe at age 21 it still will work, but by age 40 drinking makes your own enjoyment much less.  Men enjoy a hot woman, not a woman who has had way too many.   Never drink more than what your body can consume. Excessive drinking can impair your judgment as much as your sexual ability.  Anyway you are there for sex, not excessive drinking. So know your limits.

#9 Dealing with Jealousy

Jealousy is very common for people who don’t swing.  If you are a very jealous person then swinging is not for you.  A couple should never swing if either partner is the jealous type.  If you are new at this, it is always better to play in the same room or enjoy your partners excitement.   

If jealousy does occur, cease all activities immediately!  Stop until you understand the situation and to prevent any misaligned anger.   Remember this adult life style is NOT for everyone.  Don’t force it upon yourself or your partner.

#10 Drugs are prohibited.  No kinds of drugs will be tolerated in any way.  You should not accept anyone using any drugs and having sex with you.  The one exception is an ED drug.   Older men may use Viagra and other drugs so ED are encouraged.  Remember a man won’t get hard if he is not turned on, even with ED drugs.  So ladies do your stuff. As for drugs, never let anyone have sex with you on drugs!

 #11. Dress code

Every club has a rule that members and guests are to be dressed neat and clean.   Nothing wrong in wearing sexy attire.   Nothing wrong for men to wear clothing that allows a woman easy access to his tool.   Remember dress to please and to seduce your potential partner. In general, most dress codes are  “Dress to impress”. The key is sexy for the ladies and classy for the men.

#12.  Safe Sex.  At  swinger clubs there is probably more risks since you probably can't ask the person questions that you would like before having sex.  If you are having sex with just one guy, then you know the risks, but at a swinger club if a guy has sex with a very active woman, she might have had one to two hundred partners, so using a condom for risky forms of sex might be advisable.  Many men have no problem with getting a good hand job or a BJ.

#13.  Most swingers clubs are not  bi- sexual.  Some clubs allow female to female, but very few offer male to male.  If it does happen, it is usually done in private rooms.  

$14.  All the swing clubs that have provided feedback, do not allow pictures being taken of the people in the club.  Many of the swingers are professionals and they have to be discreet. So if you want to take pictures, do it off site in a motel or other place.

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